On June 23, 2012. I said, "I do".
In some ways, it seems like we just got married yesterday. In other ways, it seems like way longer than three years.
For those of you who have been married for a while, you may think we are still young and in our "honeymoon phase"... Which, I guess I would agree with in a lot of ways. But, in a lot of ways, I feel like we are wise beyond our years. We have been through a lot together. And I think that's what makes our bond so strong.
I thought I would share a few things I have learned throughout these three years... It's not much, but if you are going to be married soon, these are just a few words of wisdom...
Go ahead and accept this: Thing are not going to be perfect.
In my dreams, we would get married. We would save a lot of money within a years' time. We would start a family and buy a house on a hill. It would be beautiful. The stuff of Pinterest boards.
But, life did not turn out this way. We struggle. Our life is not what you pin on your Pinterest boards.
But, you know what? I'm OK with that. The older I get, and the more life I live, the more I realize some things really are just not that important. Our house does not belong in Better Homes & Gardens... I don't cook gourmet meals every night (Hamburger Helper, anyone?)... Sometimes, laundry is in very high piles... And it is what it is.
And knowing that we have the rest of our lives to figure it out sure makes it easier. : )
Pick your battles.
B and I really don't fight that much, but I'll be honest with you: There are a lot of things we could fight about.
But we don't. There are things B does that drive me crazy. And I am 100% sure there are things I do that make him want to scream! But, we roll our eyes, laugh, and move along... And we're happier for it.
Celebrate the little things.
It's so easy to celebrate the big victories: your anniversary, your new job, buying your first house... And there's nothing wrong with getting excited about those things!
But, those moments that are easy to overlook: those rare Saturdays when you both have nothing to do, the late nights when you hop in the car in your PJs to get milkshakes, those times when everything is going wrong, but you look at each other and laugh it off... Those are the things you should make a priority to celebrate. Those are the things that make being married fun.
B, I love you. You are everything I ever dreamed of. You love me, you respect me, you honor me... You are patient with me, you make me laugh, you keep me on my toes... I praise God for you, and thank Him every single day for our marriage. You were made for me, and I'll tell you what: God hit the nail on the head.